This post is out of a 50-something anonymous Man-Fan. He took his time to share his expertise and point of view what mature single guys find sexy. It's not like what you think or see in the movies, sister!
I absolutely love what he's sharing with you. And thank you Mr. Anonymous!
Do you compare yourself against what you see Netflix and benaughty reviews?
If the person you're dating told you that you're attractive, do you believe him?
If the answer is anywhere near a"no more"...you better read this.
What Mature Single Guys Are Attracted To What They Are NOT (For Real...a Twist From a True Man)
In my experience, there's a vast ocean of difference between what girls think men are drawn to versus what they really are. In reality it is probably somebody who looks like you do along with also the allure is more than lukewarm.
Unfortunately, a lot of women seem to consider that men find super-skinny girls like fashion models especially attractive.
When asked to forecast the figure that men will find most alluring, girls consistently opt for a skinnier figure compared to men really favor. The figures women think men favor are more like fashion models than Playmates. The figures that the guys really prefer will also be much closer to the women's own characters compared to thinner ones girls believe that men like.
At the age of 54, coming from my 20 plus year marriage, I found myself in front of women at a totally different stage of life compared to those I was used to before getting married. They are completely different people with entirely different life experiences and honestly the adjustment has been difficult.
In the year I've been online dating I would estimate I have met about fifty girls. (Yes, I do date girls my age)
The girls almost all bashed their appearance in 1 manner or another.
At first I thought it was self-deprecating humor but I soon recognized these girls were severe. They really did feel that negatively about themselves. Even more frustrating was that no quantity of re-assurance from me could get them to change their minds.
Compliments were quickly ignored.
As time moved on it became more intense.
Girls would point out defects that just merely DID NOT EXIST. The defects were completely within their creativity. They'd point at something on their body and say,"see, this is precisely what I'm talking about. Can you see it?"
I would say,"No, honestly I don't see it" (because it's not there).
The senses were only so beyond reason, out of control, and also the women inconsolable. It is just seemed insane. I'm a guy, know what men like, and one or more of these women would be viewed by men as exceptionally beautiful.
Why would I inquire if I did not think they were amazing?
My experience was that the outcomes of the Psychology Today article are true. I wouldn't say guys dislike the trend model types but rather they leave us rather flat and ambivalent.
Oddly, small quirks like a hook in the nose, freckles, crow's feet at the corner of the eyes, really work in the woman's favor.
Men are men, and their crudeness never ends as they get older, we are just more discreet. When seeing a thinner woman completely half of the guys will make comments along the lines of"not to me I need someone I can catch on to". Or, the always romantic"I want somebody with some meat on her bones".
We have no"type". Even if we say we do we create daily"exceptions just this one time."
If you looked at the photos of those fifty girls I have dated you would see they each look entirely different. Different height, build, age, ethnicity. Taking matters further, each man is going to pick a different fifty.
So here is the main point. There are just two uniformly consistent qualities that men find appealing. Two things you have absolute control over: